8.19.26 – Still Looking for the Bride
Free will must be part of the Yefat Toar marriage procedure, so that the true "form" of the marriage may be revealed. Dinah, from Genesis 34, was not free. Shechem claimed to love her, but he did not permit her to return to her father and brothers while the marriage contract was negotiated. Instead, she was "loved" while being chained to Shechem's coercion and chashak . She was an object upon whom he placed his passion, but he did not trust her with free will. The captive woman is not just a captive of Israel—she has been chained to the idols of her heritage. For a full month, she distances herself from that idolatry. If she will not be like Ruth—a true convert who leaves her idols behind—she is not permitted as a wife and must go free, back to the realm of death. Her seed will not be sown in Israel to produce a mixed field of the Word and tares. In a way, this weeding out prevents the "seed of the woman" from reproducing idolatry. A woman who conv...